All too often we seem to lose things or have to let things go. This can at first, be extremely difficult to understand. Not surprisingly, because we only get a small picture of our lives. Actually, tomorrow is not even guaranteed, so many philosophical notions and religious text about dealing with the uncertain of mortality. I am not blogging about that today.
In my lived experience I have had to reduce things to make room for new opportunities, relationships and lifestyle improvements. What is the anxiety we suffer from when change happens, especially in the context of contraction and reduction? Here is a beautiful Christian pray…Titled Major Life Transition, from a contemporary pray book I discovered doing my Theology Degree
Lord, help me now to unclutter my life, to organize myself in the direction of simplicity. Lord, teach me to listen to my heart; teach me to welcome change, instead of fearing it. Lord, I give you these stirrings inside me. I give you my discontent. I give you my restlessness. I give you my doubt. I give you my despair. I give you all the longings I hold inside. Help me to listen to these signs of change, of growth; help me to listen seriously and follow where they lead through the breathtaking empty space of an open door.
COMMON PRAYER A LITURGY FOR ORDINARY RADICALS
SHANE CLAIBORNE JONATHAN WILSON-HARTGROVE ENUMA OKORO
Whether you are Christian or don’t even like metaphysical literature. It has some great advice. Of course, you don’t need to ask gods for help or the monotheist’s versions of God. You can merely read it as, unclutter my life, organise myself in the direction of simplicity, I let go, see the signs of change, of growth, listen to your heart, follow it, through the breathtaking space of an open door.
It’s a beautiful prayer and for many Christians, it would offer great solace in their faith. If you have an open mind you can get gems from just about anything. That’s my life’s ambition to be open-minded and never claim to have cornered truth.
The loss of things can be devastating for many, so horrendous people specialise in this field of study and work to help others. I have lost just about everything you can imagine at some point. My advice at 51 is to appreciate what you enjoy, make sure you do it to the fullest but hold it loosely based on the fact that life is constantly changing.
Thinking that you might lose something is not negative thinking, its seeing reality for what it really is. Negative thinking would be saying every day this will fail, I will lose this. What I am suggesting it look at reality and accept it. No point having yourself on, we don’t know from one day till the next exactly what will happen.
Understanding this impermanence is not negative it’s liberating. Liberating in the truth of life and it allows us to be more present to what we have and this generates gratitude and wholesome decisions. Be grateful for changes, taking things for granted is ignorant and will cause us terrible suffering. The author below, who I have misplaced speaks wonderfully into suffering.
’Yet for suffering to become an effective spur to spiritual awakening it is not enough merely to encounter it. For the religious consciousness to be aroused suffering must be not only met as a constant liability of our existence,but confronted and grappled with in the arena of thematic reflection. As long as we engage suffering simply in its superficial modes, as felt pain and sorrow, we will react to it in one of two ways, both of which operate at a purely psychological level. In the first case we will react to suffering in an unhealthy manner, as when we arouse resentment against the source of our displeasure and seek relief by annihilating it, ignoring it, or running away in pursuit of some easy escape. In the second case we will react to suffering in a mentally healthy way, as when we fortify our minds with patience and courage, strengthen our capacities for endurance, and seek to resolve the problem in a realistic manner. But though the second approach is definitely to be preferred to the first, in neither case does that inward revolution take place which awakens us to our extreme need for deliverance and compels us to set off in a new direction previously unknown and unexplored.’
I hope whatever loss you are experiencing. I hope you learn more about yourselves and realized it’s all part of understanding reality better and our spiritual oractice, growth and management.