“Consistency and perfection are both seriously overrated. In art and life, beauty is often woven into flaws. As Leonard Cohen says in his song “Anthem”: “Ring the bells that still can ring / Forget your perfect offering / There’s a crack, a crack, in everything / That’s how the light gets in.”Benner PhD, David G.. Human Being and Becoming (p. 10). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.
The ideals about perfection and failure destroy people and are the cause for a whole generation of anxiety. I am referring to the people in their late 20s and early thirties.
You will never have all the answers and security you desire. You do not need to be rich to be happy. Most of all you don’t have to have it all together to lead a happy life. You can have a good life with all your flaws and not knowing your future.
Yes, poor mental health is challenging but is not the end of the world. You can learn how to manage this well and enjoy your life once again. It starts with cutting yourself some slack.
We all need to get a better perspective on things. This Buddhist has some wonderful advice.
“In reality there are no problems in this world but by mistaking ’the unreal for real’ or taking natural occurrences seriously into the mind for ourselves because we never think that it is natural for many of those natural occurrences to be not in our favour.”Ven. Dr. k Sri Dhammananda
We all need to step back from our problems and examine them objectively. Often there is no problem at all its just how life has unfolded, and we could not have changed it if we tried. Often our best plain is to let go, yes let go of everything. All the negativity and ideals. We have to accept this is who we are.
We can still set goals to work on being a better version of ourselves. This does not mean we have to be perfect or never make monumental mistakes. Mistakes and stumbling blocks can be our greatest assets.
Finally, don’t say I cannot change. It’s often not about changing anything except our ideals and perceptions. Slow down and reflect on what counts and always remember you can start fresh tomorrow and as long as you are still alive things can always improve. Don’t quit on yourself!